Monday, September 24, 2012

Being Human

I went to a spiritual fair a couple of weeks ago in the Cleveland area. I enjoyed the whole experience, but the main reason I went was to attend a seminar by James Twyman. I also had the opportunity to meet with him in a small group before the talk. He spoke for over two hours about many wonderful things and introduced several new and different concepts.

The concept that most resonated with me was, "to spirit your way through a problem and not spirit your way around a problem." In other words, it's okay to be human. Even though you know things like "everything happens for a reason" and "everything is the way it's supposed to be," it's okay to feel your human feelings. Go through the pain, grief or whatever. Let your spiritual beliefs help you THROUGH these feelings. Don't "use" your spiritual beliefs to go around your feelings. Even though we're working on evolving and enlightenment, we're still human. If we don't allow ourselves to feel our feelings, we set ourselves up for future problems either physically, mentally, spiritually or emotionally.

I guess I needed to hear that, so I'm assuming some of you may need to hear it too. It's like if I really believe in the things I say I believe in, why am I feeling grief, pain, depression or whatever I may be feeling? The answer is simple... I'm human. And I'm okay with that.

Love, Paula

Monday, September 17, 2012

Personal Power

There are things I just KNOW, but being human, I occasionally forget. I know that we are powerful, creator beings. Unfortunately, I often give away my power. Let me try to explain.
We have the power every single minute of every single day to be happy, sad, angry, upset, or at peace no matter what is going on around us. It's a CHOICE. We can let things that people say or do upset us. But the minute we do that, we've given away our power. We've given them the power to upset us. Does that make sense? We can respond with anger or discontent OR we can choose to hold on to our personal power and be at peace. The choice is ALWAYS ours.

There are other ways in which we give away our power. Many of us are "people pleasers." We just want everyone to be happy so we agree to do things that don't even really make sense just to make them happy.

Recently a friend and I were going to an event together out of town. I was going to drive. She lives in a nearby town and wanted me to go there to pick her up. She said it would be closer. I agreed... gave away my power to please her. Eventually with the help of another friend, I realized that this wasn't the best idea. We talked and decided to meet at a more convenient place for BOTH of us. I didn't want to take her power, but I also didn't want her to take mine. She realized that the original plan was closer for her, not me. By changing the plan, we both got to keep our personal power and enjoyed a special day.

I'm not talking about being aggressive, bossy and always having to have our own way. It's not that kind of power. It's the power of choice. Being human there will probably be times when we slip up. But as soon as we realize it, we can take back our power and continue to be happy and at peace.

Love, Paula

Monday, September 10, 2012

Is Your Mission Complete?

I believe we're all here for a reason... many reasons, actually. Some we'll realize, some we won't ever know. Several of us have children. We could say that the reason we're here is because we were supposed to have these children. I'm sure that is true, but that's only a part of it.

Many people live LARGE lives. They become mayors, congressman, senators, presidents. They invent cars, airplanes, telephones, computers. They become movie stars, pop singers, directors, executives. You get the idea. LARGE lives.

Most of us don't fall into that category. Only a very small portion of the world will know we even existed. But that doesn't make our existence any less important or valuable. I mentioned in a previous blog that we ALL have our own piece of the puzzle to bring forth and share. The puzzle isn't complete until our piece is placed. Even though we perceive that what we do and say is insignificant, we may never know what impact it has on someone else. I'll give you a couple of examples.
I have a friend who was going through a difficult time in her life. Occasionally after work we would get together and walk. Obviously while walking, we did a lot of talking. I mostly let her talk so she could vent and work out her problems. She made a life changing decision and things were going better for her. Years later in a conversation, she told me that what I said to her changed her life. I had no idea what she was talking about. She said I told her that if she only looked for minimum wage jobs, that's all she was going to find. She said it was like a slap in the face and the wake up call she needed.

I used to have these little cards that looked like business cards. On them were the words, "Thank you for being who you are. Who you are is wonderful and what you do is important". The idea was to leave them discretely with people you thought should have them. Once when I was having my yearly "pap," they had a nurse practitioner give it to me. She was wonderful, kind and did a great job. I left one of the cards in the exam room hoping she would find it later that day. Instead, she found it right away and ran out to give me a hug and thank me. She had a tear in her eye and said how much she needed that right then. She had just been told that they were cutting back on staff and she was being let go.

A friend of mine who was my mother's hospice nurse in her final days told me that mom asked her why she couldn't just die. My friend told her that she wasn't finished with her work yet. She still had a life to touch with something she might say or do. Mom asked if she really believed that and my friend answered, "Absolutely."

These are examples that I know about. Hopefully there are many, many more that I'll never know about. The same goes for all of us. You never know if that smile, compliment, hug or kind word were just exactly what someone needed right then. It may even change their lives.

So if you ever feel unimportant or that you're not doing much with your life, remember that you may be touching others just by being you.

Here's a simple test to find out whether your mission in life is complete. If you're alive, it isn't.

Love, Paula

Monday, September 3, 2012

"It's Today!"

The Erie Community Foundation is an entity set up to invest in local charities and non-profit organizations. Every year they designate a day where they match gifts of $25 or more that are donated. It's called "Erie Gives." Of course all the local charities advertise however they can to try to get as many donations as possible that day because the donations double.

In a couple of other blogs I've quoted signs that I've seen on my way to work. The sign I've quoted most is in front of The Regional Cancer Center, a local non-profit organization.

The other day on my way to work the sign read, "It's Today!" I thought to myself, how cool is that?! It doesn't say much yet it says everything. Celebrate today. Be conscious. Be present. Don't dwell on the past, it's over. Don't worry about the future, it's not here yet. It's today. Let's just be here now and celebrate that. That's where my mind went.

I eventually realized what they were REALLY saying. It was Erie Gives day. They wanted to remind people that "It's Today" so they would hopefully donate to their cause.


Love, Paula